When your family doesn’t understand your writing ambitions…

Deanne Adams, Story Coach and Mentor. Write the best book you can.
Written by Deanne Adams


I heard something sad today. 

Someone was looking for some moral support because their family weren’t even slightly interested in the novel they were writing. When this person tried to talk about their creative endeavours, their relatives either point-blank ignored them or changed the subject.

Writing a novel is a challenging and rewarding endeavor, but it can also be lonely and frustrating at times. If your dreams aren’t supported by your family, you might feel discouraged or misunderstood. However, you should not let their lack of interest stop you from pursuing your passion.

Do you feel alone as a writer?

Here is some advice to help you cope with these feelings and keep writing:

 Respect your family’s boundaries and preferences. They might not share your enthusiasm for your novel because they have different tastes, interests, or priorities. That does not mean they don’t love you or care about you.

 Find your own motivation and inspiration. Writing a novel is a long-term project that requires dedication, discipline, and passion. You need to have a clear vision of what you want to achieve and why you want to write it. Remind yourself of your goals and celebrate your milestones and achievements.

– Remember that your family’s opinion is not the only one that matters. You are writing for yourself and your readers, not for them. Seek feedback from writing coaches (me!) instead. Or join a supportive writing support group – like my very own Facebook community! You’ll benefit from constructive criticism, encouragement, and advice that can improve your confidence. 


if you’re looking for more structure, you might like Storytellers Elite – its for writers who know they’re on a journey of improvement. We celebrate each other’s successes, help each other through sticky spots and pool our knowledge.

Until next time, keep writing!

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I care passionately about words and stories. As a Story Coach and Mentor, I help writers to tell irresistible stories. I offer courses, memberships and programmes to suit beginners, developing writers and those ready to become the writer they’ve been trying to be for years.

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