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		<title>Should I get an editor before a publisher or agent?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Deanne Adams]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Feb 2022 15:04:57 +0000</pubDate>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Should I get an editor before a publisher or agent?</span></h2>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Before you start querying agents or publishers, you should write a great book. Whatever means you use to achieve it, you need to write the best book you can. That is the simplest answer possible. Publishers in the traditional publishing industry want books they can publish with as little extra work as possible. Literary agents want books they can easily pitch to their publishing contacts. No traditional publisher or literary agent wants to take on a book or a writer who hasn’t already come a long way on the road to being a polished author.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Your job as author is to show them that your book is ready for that. This is true whatever genre you’re writing: general fiction, women’s fiction, speculative fiction, children’s fiction, non-fiction, memoir… </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you want anyone to be interested in reading your book you need to go through editing. Professional editing highlights problems with your manuscript you won’t spot yourself. Plot holes. Weak character arcs and development. Narrative viewpoint problems. Style issues. </span></p>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h3><span style="font-weight: 400;">Before you hire an editor…</span></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You need to also go back a step from hiring an editor. Let me explain.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Before you get to the stage of hiring an editor, you need to figure out how to write a good story. That means character development, point of view, structure, description, action, scene organisation… so many things to work into your manuscript.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You don’t have to get all of these story skills perfect before you send your work to your editor. But you do have to have given them a decent try. An editor can only work with what you’ve sent. They can’t turn a bad story into a good one. You know the saying: sow’s ear – silk purse.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h3><span style="font-weight: 400;">Write a Great Manuscript </span></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Editing is highly valuable. Before you query publishers and agents, you should get a professional edit of your manuscript. You can learn a lot from getting an edit too. You can take this learning with you into the next book you write. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That sounds frustrating to any writer, though. You want your manuscript to be sellable, don’t you? You don’t want that story and all those hours of writing to be just a learning experience.</span></p>
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<h3><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Business of Writing</span></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Writing can feel pretty lonely. It can feel like you’re meant to figure it out all on your own, especially when you listen to some of the ‘advice’ in writing forums and groups. This couldn’t be further from the truth.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Being a writer doesn’t have to be a solitary lifestyle. Being a writer doesn’t mean you have to learn through slow, painful experience. Investing in support means you can get where you want to be faster. You can get through the uncertainty about how to structure a novel, create great characters with strong motivations and goals, and hone a style and voice that your readers will love. You can make progress in leaps and bounds, not just in tiny steps.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This doesn’t mean you don’t need an editor before you try to land yourself a publisher or agent, if you’re planning to take the traditional publishing route. You still do. But it means that your editor will be able to help you tweak your manuscript enough to give you the best chance of attracting attention with it.</span></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p class="western">Do you get upset when people can&#8217;t see your story&#8217;s value? Especially when they <strong>say</strong> they&#8217;re interested in what you want to share with the world, but their <strong>actions</strong> don&#8217;t live up to this? They don&#8217;t read your blog (never mind share it), don&#8217;t come to your talks, don&#8217;t put their money where their mouths are.</p>
<p class="western">I know, it is frustrating when that happens. It can even leave you feeling rejected, as if your story isn&#8217;t worth telling. I feel your pain. But I&#8217;m going to tell you where you&#8217;ve been going wrong so that you can start to fix it.</p>
<h4 class="western">All Our Stories Have Value</h4>
<p class="western">It&#8217;s true – ALL our stories have value, intrinsically. Whether your story is about climbing an impossible mountain (literally or metaphorically), about your years in front of adolescent pupils, or about a boy wizard. Your stories come from within you. As such, they are valuable.</p>
<p class="western">So why don&#8217;t <em>others</em> recognise the value of them? Why do you feel like nobody cares? This is the truth of the matter&#8230; all of us –<em>including you</em> – only care about the stories of other people when the parts of our brains which control empathy, imagination and emotion have been stimulated. In other words, we only give a flying fiddle about someone else&#8217;s story when we can imagine ourselves in that situation and facing the same challenges.</p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p class="western">You might be thinking right now: “That isn&#8217;t the way I think. I always care about other people&#8217;s stories. I&#8217;m really interested in other people.”</p>
<p class="western">I&#8217;m not denying that you have a normal degree of empathy in your psychology. That empathy has to be <strong><em>triggered</em></strong>, though. Unless you are an extreme empath, you <strong>do not</strong> engage with others&#8217; experiences entirely by your own devices. That would be a very uncomfortable nature to have. How would you ever get any peace from other people&#8217;s pain?</p></div>
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<p class="western">Those storytellers who have triggered your empathy have done so in such a skilful way that you probably don&#8217;t even realised they did anything. That&#8217;s why you think it&#8217;s all down to your own empathy. What they have done is tell their story in such a way that they have made your brain experience it as if it is actually happening to YOU, not to them or their character. They&#8217;ve got into your head and made you feel as if you are there, with the problems and threats in the story facing YOU.</p>
<p class="western"><strong>Your brain does not know the difference</strong> between the sights, sounds and smells in real life, and the sights, sounds and smells you are only hearing in a story. That sounds insane, I know, but it&#8217;s true. If a neuroscientist looked at scans of your brain in the two scenarios, there would be no marked difference in the bits that lit up.</p>
<h4 class="western">How Do I Fix My Stories Then?</h4>
<p class="western">Our imaginations are linked to our senses. Learn to tell your stories by stimulating your audience&#8217;s senses. Once they can imagine it, they can begin to develop empathy. Once they have developed empathy, they will begin to care about what happens in the story. They will be captivated because, you see, they no longer feel that it is someone else&#8217;s story.<strong> It is now their story as well as your own.</strong></p>
<p class="western">Would you love to learn how to tell stories that captivate? Join <a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/the-storytellers-academy/">The Storytellers&#8217; Academy</a>.</p>
<p class="western">Curious? Want to discover more? Join the FREE group <a href="http://www.facebook.com/groups/GotAStory/?ref=bookmarks">I&#8217;ve Got a Story to Tell</a>.</p></div>
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<p><strong><i>DEANNE ADAMS - STORY COACH AND MENTOR</i></strong></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I care passionately about words and stories. As a <a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/contact-deanne-adams/about-me/">Story Coach and Mentor</a>, I help writers to tell irresistible stories. I offer courses, memberships and programmes to suit beginners, developing writers and those ready to become the writer they've been trying to be for years.</span></i></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Learn how to </span></i><a href="https://www.subscribepage.com/r2c7q3"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">'Show more than you tell'</span></i></a><i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> in your writing with my free workbook - your guide to an engaging storytelling style. You can also follow me on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/storyliberator" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Facebook</a> or join my <a href="https://www.patreon.com/BookForge1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Patreon</a> for more tips to support your writing journey.</span></i></p></div>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>You write a story, put it out there… and nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Nobody (apart from your mum) seems to care. It’s a powerful story, one which had an impact on you when you lived or imagined it. Why doesn’t anyone comment on it or share it? The wind has been taken completely out of your sails. What went wrong? </p>
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<p>You write a story, put it out there&#8230; and nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Nobody (apart from your mum) seems to care. It&#8217;s a powerful story, one which had an impact on you when you lived or imagined it. Why doesn&#8217;t anyone comment on it or share it? The wind has been taken completely out of your sails. What went wrong?</p>
<p><strong>Is it because what you have to say is worthless? Definitely not.</strong></p>
<p>Rather, it is because people haven&#8217;t seen the <strong>value</strong> in what you have to say&#8230; <em>which is a different matter</em>.</p>
<p>And that is because (brace yourself for the honest feedback) you haven&#8217;t provided them with the story in a way that is of value to them. <strong>This is totally a problem you can do something about.</strong></p></div>
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<p>People go wrong at the ground level of understanding what will make their audience connect with their story. They think that they need to say what happened, what the people in the story felt and thought, and throw in a few adjectives for description. Does this sound familiar? It is highly likely that you have been telling your stories this way, and unintentionally alienating your audience.</p>
<p>This events-based way of telling a story does not work if you want to create an emotional connection with your audience.</p></div>
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<p>Go back to the time when you were<em> living</em> a story that you have tried to tell. It doesn&#8217;t matter if it&#8217;s a true story and you lived it for real, or if it&#8217;s a story that only happened in your head. How did you experience it? Or at least, how do you remember experiencing it? You might remember the colours, shapes, light, movements and other<strong> visual</strong> aspects of the experience. For example, do you remember the way that cloud sped across the sky and turned the ground grey?</p>
<p>Perhaps you recall the <strong>sounds</strong> more than the sights. The way the school children were shouting in their yard a quarter of a mile away; the way the back door slammed and cut off the noise from outside. Maybe you remember the characteristic rhythm of a clock.</p>
<p>It could be that you remember the feelings in your <strong>muscles, joints and &#8216;guts&#8217;</strong> more than the sights or sounds. The way a person shrank in utter defeat or misery; the way you tapped and fiddled with a pen in your nervousness. The way people behaved physically – and changed their behaviour as the story moved on – is a third way you might have experienced the story.</p>
<p>These three ways of experiencing a story <em>(sights, sounds and kinaesthetic sensations)</em> are likely to be the main ways in which YOU experienced that story. The <em>balance</em> between the three ways varies from person to person, but you can be pretty sure that those three types of stimulus were present in your experience of the story.</p>
<p><em>Now let&#8217;s move on to how this can<strong> help</strong> <strong>you</strong> <strong>tell your story</strong> in a way that will help you form an emotional connection with your ideal audience&#8230;</em><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/332684793907634/"></a></p></div>
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<p>You now know that as a member of the human race, you experienced the story through a range of stimuli, the main ones being <strong><em>sight, sound and physical feeling</em></strong>.</p>
<p>That is how other people experience stories too. Therefore, what you need to do is offer your audience the stimuli so that they can experience your story for themselves. Just as you experienced the story through stimuli, so too do your audience.</p>
<p>Telling people an events-based version will not enable them to &#8216;live&#8217; the story. Letting them <strong>&#8216;see&#8217;</strong>,<strong> &#8216;hear&#8217;</strong> and<strong> &#8216;feel&#8217;</strong> the story in their muscles and gut WILL.</p>
<p><strong>Found this article useful?</strong> Join the free Facebook group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/332684793907634/">&#8216;I&#8217;ve Got a Story to Tell&#8217;</a></p></div>
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<p><strong><i>DEANNE ADAMS - STORY COACH AND MENTOR</i></strong></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">I care passionately about words and stories. As a <a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/contact-deanne-adams/about-me/">Story Coach and Mentor</a>, I help writers to tell irresistible stories. I offer courses, memberships and programmes to suit beginners, developing writers and those ready to become the writer they've been trying to be for years.</span></i></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Learn how to </span></i><a href="https://www.subscribepage.com/r2c7q3"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">'Show more than you tell'</span></i></a><i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> in your writing with my free workbook - your guide to an engaging storytelling style. You can also follow me on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/storyliberator" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Facebook</a> or join my <a href="https://www.patreon.com/BookForge1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Patreon</a> for more tips to support your writing journey.</span></i></p></div>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Be kind to your writer-type friend, even if to do so you must be cruel. Above all, be honest. Otherwise, you may well recognise yourself in a future story meeting a very sticky end.</p>
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<p><em>There are some awful things you might have said to a friend who loves writing. You probably said them in all innocence. Allow me to explain why you should never, ever repeat them, since your friend is unlikely to tell you him or herself.</em></p>
<p>I am a writer. I work with writers. I help people become writers. I know that when a group of writers congregate in a room and one of them tells the others something a well-meaning friend has said, everyone else will wince in shared sympathy and empathy.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s because the individuals in that room &#8216;get&#8217; it. Whatever their ages, genders, races, nationalities, they get it. Even regardless of the genre each of them prefers to write in – which is a far, far greater divide than racial groupings or generations could ever be – they get it.</p>
<p><strong>What should you never, EVER say to a writer? Read on:</strong><a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/three-myths-good-writing-debunked/"></a></p></div>
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<p>Firstly, what kind of pressure is that to put on your friend? If someone takes up running, would you think it fair to ask him if he intends to be the next Mo Farrah? <em>(&#8230;Sir Mo, I should say.)</em><br />Not only that, but what does your friend have in common with J.K. Rowling/G.R.R. Martin/Philippa Gregory? Apart from the fact that they all put words together in a particular order on a page? Chances are, your friend&#8217;s work bears as much resemblance to one of those authors&#8217; books as a raven does to a writing desk. <strong>You&#8217;ll irritate your friend immensely – he or she is probably just too nice to tell you so.</strong><a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/three-myths-good-writing-debunked/"></a></p></div>
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<p>Did you give the story anything more than a quick scan? Did you look at it at all? If not, just say so. If your friend is serious about writing, she wants REAL feedback NOT a platitude. She wants to know what you liked about it, and she wants to know what you didn&#8217;t like – what was confusing, what was boring, that kind of thing.<br />You could actually cause damage to your writer-type friend&#8217;s confidence by saying it was &#8216;nice&#8217;. &#8216;Nice&#8217; is a word we use to describe a gift we think is a bit dull but we don&#8217;t want to hurt the person&#8217;s feelings. Please, offer a real emotional reaction to that story. Perhaps you were angered or disgusted by something in it: that is better than saying it is &#8216;nice&#8217;.<br /><strong><em>What if your friend gets offended by you saying this?</em></strong> If she is serious about being a writer, she won&#8217;t be. If she is offended&#8230; well, <em>she asked</em>&#8230; and you won&#8217;t have her bothering you for an opinion in the future.<a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/three-myths-good-writing-debunked/"></a></p></div>
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<p>He or she is probably grinding their molars to dust when you ask that.<br />Writers of children&#8217;s books face tough challenges. Children are harsh critics. They know they deserve to be transported and enthralled by a story. If something is boring, or if there is a mistake in the &#8216;reality&#8217; of the story, or if the child feels patronised, that book is going to be put down and not picked up again.<br />A child is not going to tolerate a sloppy writing style, poor research or masses of needless back story. An adult might say, <em>“I found it a bit slow to start with, but I stuck with it and it got better.”</em> Try to imagine a ten year old saying that. No chance.<br />Think very carefully before asking a question like this of your writer-type friend. If you want to stay friends, that is.<a href="https://bestbookyoucan.com/three-myths-good-writing-debunked/"></a></p></div>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><strong>4. “I really liked that one. It reminded me of&#8230; you know, that book&#8230;”</strong></p>
<p>Please&#8230; go and check your facts first. Is your friend&#8217;s work really reminiscent of &#8216;that book&#8217; or is it just that a particular word or character&#8217;s name set you thinking of something else you&#8217;ve read? Unless there really are glaring similarities, do NOT say this to your friend. It will not be taken as a compliment, even if you&#8217;ve compared the text to Pride and Prejudice or Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? It will be taken by your friend as a sign that he has been wasting his time. What is the point of writing something that has already been written? What publisher will take his book on if it is a rip-off of something else?<br /><strong><em>What if your friend really has lifted a plot wholesale (even unconsciously) from somewhere else?</em></strong> If you&#8217;re sure about it and you&#8217;ve double-checked your facts, it would be kindest in the long run to tell him. Do it gently and privately – it will be very bad news, but if he is a good friend he won&#8217;t shoot the messenger. (Unless he turns you into a character in a new story and has you murdered in a brutally imaginative fashion. If this happens, you&#8217;ve done him a favour by providing him the inspiration for something original.)</p></div>
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<p>Be kind to your writer-type friend, even if to do so you must be cruel. Above all, be honest. Otherwise, you may well recognise yourself in a future story meeting a very sticky end.</p></div>
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